Should you be stronger than me?

4 Jul

Sorry for the wait for a new post! Had a bit of a problem with the internet, then with my laptop… sufficed to say, it was all a bit of a struggle!

But I’m back!

Do you know ‘Stronger than Me’ by Amy Winehouse?

It’s an oldie, from her first album, Frank, but it always seems to strike a chord with me.

I was having a good old sing along in the shower the other day, when occurred to me that maybe it shouldn’t.

Should a man always be stronger than a woman?

We fought for so long for equality, and it seems like now that we have (almost) arrived, it’s all too much.

Whether a man or woman should work, or stay at home is their own choice!

Can we really do it all?

But for women, it’s taboo to say you want to be a housewife! On meeting someone at a dinner party who said that was her life’s ambition, everyone around the table looked scandalised.

We found ourselves making excuses: “No, I’d go stir crazy cooped up in the house all day!”,”What exactly was your education for, then?”

Personally, although I do love baking a cake and find children adorable, my career comes first.

“Why d’you always put me in control? All I need is for my man to live up to his role!
Always wanna talk it through, I’m okay. Always have to comfort you everyday.
But that’s what I need you to do – are you gay?”

But I’m sure there are others who just want to settle down, but right now it’s socially unacceptable to admit you want to stay at home.

“Girl Power” has been drummed into my generation almost since we were born.

We see ourselves as equal to men in every way – which can mean, in some relationships, being strong enough to look after your man from time to time.

Suffragettes fought for equality, and although Amy seems mightily annoyed with her boyfriend in the song, that’s what relationships are about.

Sometimes you look after them, and hopefully, when you really need it, they’ll look after you.


2 Responses to “Should you be stronger than me?”

  1. amalmansy July 5, 2010 at 8:50 am #

    Hi Lalah,
    yes, I wish I was strong enough to say, I want to stay home and take care of my self and my family instead of going to work, it’s not just the community pressure , it’s also being used to having my own money that I don’t have the courage to give up.

    • Lalah-Simone Springer July 6, 2010 at 2:33 pm #

      You’re right, I can’t imagine having to ask my partner for cash to do the shopping, or even worse, buy things for myself!
      (He’d just say no, the amount of shoes I randomly fall in love with) but it’s also a power thing.

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